Like the guy is the more submissive one in the relationship and the girl is more dominating. It has to be young adult. It doesn't really need to be a romance book, it just needs to have that kind of relationship.
Just as note, I know that there are no truly defined roles for males and females when it comes to romantic relationships, but when I say the roles are reversed, I mean the ones you generally see in literature. Especially since Twilight came out.
Think of it as the opposite of Edward and Bella's relationship.
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And Tamora Pierce’s two books about Ally (Trickster’s Choice and Trickster’s Queen) have that, and her other Tortal books have the girl on equal terms as the boy
Great Expectations by Dickens- Estella and Pip. Also the play by Shaw Man and Superman focuses on this theme.
Ron + Hermione from the Harry Potter series.
Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman. It’s not a romance, but the lead female basically leads the male protagonist throughout the entire book.
Chibi Vampire by Yuna Kagesaki (not technically a book, it’s a manga). But the Mom of the family is always telling the father what to do. He’s a bit of a pushover :p
Hopefully my answer helped at least somewhat.
I guess in the Mortal Instruments series Clary has this relationship with Jace, you know–even though it’s much more complicated, but if you haven’t read it–definitely check it out…like now. It’s verrry good/hilarious/sexy/spooky.
Um…also try Just Listen as well, by Sarah Desen. And I think in Forever by Judy Blume, the couple has a relationship like this too.